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Articles: My Experience | Does 'Frankness' imply hurting?
- Mrs. sharmila Sanka
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Many a time, truth is not always bitter. It is the motive behind the utterance of a person that expresses the truth that is bitter. ‘Do not always oblige but always speak obligingly.’-This is a famous saying we repeatedly hear from our well-wishers. This sentence explains the intensity of caution and significance of every word we utter. Why are we reminded every moment to be vigilant not to hurt some one? It is because we often hear many people say they are frank and in the name of frankness they do not bother hurting the other person to any extent. Do they really know what ‘Frankness’ means in real sense?
Frankness does not mean hurting people by speaking anything in a harsh manner. It only means even the bitter truth should be told in a soft manner. That should be the motto of a person of frankness. Truth always need not involve acrimony. There are ways to speak out your heart in a more pleasant way.
Knowingly when you come across any ‘so called’ frank person, be watchful and tell yourself that no matter what that person speaks, you will not get hurt and affected by his talk. It is not that such people are disagreeable or pessimistic. It is that they don’t put themselves in others’ shoes. Their frank words of harshness wound the heart so deeply that they do not even realize this truth in their entire lives. They think it is so natural for them to speak nothing but the truth and in turn say that they do not keep anything inside their hearts like the soft spoken people and they speak out what they feel at heart.
Beware; even the kind hearted people have tongues to speak harshly and minds to think deeper than you. But why do they remain silent and reserved despite all the same above factors which provoke you to fly high above your own selves? It is their humility and the value they attach to their speech and the people they speak to.
Try to put yourselves in others’ shoes to feel the pain of others when they hear you speak such harsh words. Ask your conscience if it is the right way to speak out the truth. Sweet falsehood and bitter speech ought to be shunned. Let your mind be faster than your tongue so that you give enough time for your mind to think before uttering even a single word. When you are that cautious in your speech, you will be surrounding people’s lives with joy and peace.
“The real technique of Frankness lies in spreading the message of truth to a mind with out pricking the heart.”
-Sharmila Sanka
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